Every so often I get a message from someone who is grieving the death of someone, usually a parent, who was abusive. To say this complicates grief is the understatement of all time. The mix of grief and abuse is so confusing. So what’s really going on? Every so often I get a message from […]
How do you define grief moving forward? In response to one of my emails, someone posted this question on Facebook… you asked that we comment on your email regarding: “Anger, regret and guilt are among the stickiest issues when it comes to grief. Resolving them is key to your grief moving forward.” My difficulty with
In my last post I talked about Grief and Regret…The would’ves, should’ves, could’ves we all experience during the grieving process. In today’s video, I’m talking about a deeper level of regret, guilt and even anger, the result of unfinished business you still have with the person who died. We all have a touch of this
When it comes to normal grief vs complicated grief, the only criteria that matters is whether it’s moving or not. It’s not about timelines or symptoms. And it’s often hard to tell whether it’s actually moving or just spinning around in place. Photo Credit: GermanGirl
Normal Grief vs Complicated Grief: Is it moving? Read More »
In a recent survey, I was asked about whether there have been any studies about the impact of grief on the brain. Current research on the brain is exploding with new revelations emerging everyday about how the brain responds and functions. I was curious too so I went exploring and this is what I found…
I think that’s why grief triggers can be so insidious. I think they’re just triggering the grief of my most recent loss, but it might actually be a compounded pain they trigger. One pain leads to another, leads to another, leads to another. They get all wrapped up in each other and almost indistinguishable… Each
Is your grief changing? I’m NOT asking if it’s better. I’m NOT asking if you’re over it. I am asking, has your grief changed? During the first few months of a normal grieving process, it’s likely you have gone through many cycles of feeling better and feeling worse and feeling better and feeling worse again.
A Special Report…5…4…3…2…1… and then… Osama bin Laden is dead! I expected something other than the complex and conflicting emotions running through me. Joy really wasn’t one of them. How can you feel joy when someone has gone so far off the rails and caused so much tragedy and pain? No joy wasn’t it. Closure?